CDR (Ret) James Bailey
MAJ (Ret) Scotty Smiley & Mrs.
Tiffany SmileyMG (Ret) Paul Lefebvre
Commander James (Jim) Williams
Bailey told us his story on resiliency in surviving 2063 days in captivity in
Hanoi during the Vietnam war (June 28, 1967 thru February 18, 1973). Over the past several
years I have read much about the Survivor’s Personality as written by many, but
have not had the experience to listen to or speak to anyone forced to endure
long periods of POW imprisonment and still coming out alive. No doubt there is
a characteristic makeup in Survivors compared to those who are unable to endure
(see table below).
To summarize a six-year period of imprisonment and constant threat of
torture would not do justice to the story but that background is needed for
perspective. LTJG
James W. Bailey was the “backseater” of an F4B Phantom being flown by CDR
William P. "Bill" Lawrence (commanding officer of Fighter Squadron 143
onboard the USS Constellation) as they were flying a mission over Nam Dinh,
North Vietnam on 28 June 1967, when their aircraft was hit by enemy fire and
the crew was forced to eject. Lawrence and Bailey were captured by the North
Vietnamese. Bailey was held prisoner from June 1967 to February 1973. During
that time, he and the other prisoners at the “Hanoi Hilton” were continually threatened
with torture DAILY with no end in sight. While there were periods during this
imprisonment he believed he would be release, each potential release was met
with disappointment. Jim Bailey survived this ordeal by maintaining a set of
personal rules as follows:
·
Deal with the isolation and hopelessness,
because it will overtake you if you cannot manage it. One day Jim assessed his situation and came to
realize “You’re in a bad place” but “self-pity is the most destructive attitude
a person can have.”· Maintain situational awareness. Be constantly aware of what you are doing and especially what you are saying.
· Set goals and routines to keep on track. You dont want to sit idle and begin to overthink your situation
· Keep a sense of humor as it will keep the hope and encourage others..
· Accept circumstances beyond your control. There is nothing you could have done or can do so get over it and move on.
· Learn to become stronger after each setback - each period of torture. Learn to Bounce back!
Others
such as Leon Ellis (author of Leading with Honor: Leadership Lessons from the Hanoi Hilton–
January 7, 2014) revealed similar survival traits and advice such as:
·
Know
yourself· Guard your character
· Clarify and build the culture- purpose, value acceptable behavior- courage
· Confront your doubts and fears
I really
appreciate Commander Bailey talking with us… this really hit home with me…. Not
that I have had to endure anything even close to that, but have had a few
harrowing experiences… These prompted me to look around to see about the
survivor’s character.
Laurence Gonzalez
and others have written much on the topic of the survivors’ trait and I found
it interesting to see a real pattern in those who make it and those who just
give in.
So I was hoping
to chat with Commander Bailey at some point on:
1.
how
have you used these lessons to teach young leaders to practice this?
2.
How
do you teach the survivor’s personality – is it teachable? Can you train others
to develop this character over time? or is it a situation where you are born
with it or without it?
3.
How
has this helped in furthering other leadership training you have done professionally
or personally?
Hopefully
he and I will connect and discuss this.
KENNETH A. LIPSHY, MD, FACS
Survivability:
The Survivor’s Personality
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Versatile/Tolerate change
Organized
Rational but hopeful
Empathetic:
Observant
Purposeful
Healthy
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Calm: Humble but self-confident
Help others
Self-Reliant
Resilient
o Influence
o Meaningful
purpose
o Open minded
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Survivability: The Survivor’s
Personality 71, 133, 136.
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